“When you get an email from a complete stranger asking you for topless pictures, you are going to be tempted to throw in the towel.”
Okay my female cohorts looking for love, I am about to state the obvious, even though it would seem that all of you would know that this is bound to be one of the major pitfalls of attempting to find your dream man on the Internet.
When you get an email from a complete stranger, asking you for topless pictures, you are going to be tempted to throw in the towel. Either that, or you are going to feel so dirty, that you’ll want a towel to use after attempting to scour yourself clean to remove that filthy word film from your brain.
Some guys are overt in what they are looking for in a woman, and will make sure to state their demands in their profiles. Some websites even house specific sections where people can obviously, and dare I say proudly, state that they are looking for hook-ups without strings. “Intimate Encounters” and “Casual Dating” are a few examples of these.
If you frequent these areas of the sites, prepare yourself, because the perverts are rampant, and they are assuming that you are just as pervy as they are!
There are also men frequenting these online hot-spots who are garden variety “just want to get into your pants” types; so if you are looking for a long-term commitment, limit your searches on dating sites to men who clearly state they are looking for relationships.
Other ‘gentlemen’, and I use the word loosely, will be perverts who are disguising themselves as love seekers. There will be phrases used in their profiles such as:
” I know that my soul mate is out there, and will search until I find her”, (Translation- I will sleep with as many people as I possibly can until I find ‘her’.)
“I am just an honest, generous guy looking for an honest girl” (Translation- I going to use the word honest as much as possible, so you believe I actually have good intentions toward you.)
“Wanting to find that special person to cuddle on the couch with” (Translation- I only want to be on the couch with you if our clothes are discarded on the floor.), and one of my all-time favorites,
“Enjoys long walks on the beach at sunset.” (Translation- I want to get you to a nude beach before the sun goes down.)
A guy friend told me once that men often use sentiments that they feel will touch a woman’s heart deeply in order to gain their trust. Ever since, I’ve taken this advice to heart, as I have read potential soul-mate profiles.
I am naturally leery of men who claim to be honest. Who is actually going to admit that he is a dishonest, self-seeking jerk? With grandiose, romantic declarations, these types of men may try to manipulate a woman’s feelings in order to get what they want. There have been a few incidents in which these ‘perverts in hiding’ have attempted to lure me in with their smooth talk, and then, attempted to get me to “talk dirty” to them.
Some have expressed interest in various other types of activities, often involving web cams and slow removal of clothing. Clearly, if I had wanted to be a 1-900 number operator or a stripper, I would have chosen such a career path, or at least they would have been suggested by my high school guidance counselor. If you are looking for a long-term, committed relationship, these men will not provide that for you.